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Celebrating family

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This week we celebrated seven years since finalizing Samuel’s adoption. I still cannot believe it’s been that long already! We decided to take him somewhere out to eat to celebrate. He chose McDonald’s.

Samuel loved the fact that our family outing was all about him. :O) We wanted him to feel special, especially with another sibling due to arrive at any time.

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I wouldn’t have picked McDonald’s, but that’s what Samuel wanted. The kids really enjoyed it. It was a lot of fun to reminisce too, and to tell Samuel about what a special day it was when we finalized his adoption.

Samuel is six

Birthday boy

Samuel turned six today. He was awake just after 6:30 this morning, and was bouncing all over the house. He was so excited. He informed me that he feels older and bigger now that he’s six. 😉 Crazy kid.

He wanted chocolate cake with blue icing, so that’s what I made him. He didn’t seem to care that it wasn’t perfect or that it leaned quite a bit (I really need to work at my cake leveling skills!). He loved it. It was a small cake so we wouldn’t get sick of eating it by the end of the week.

How is he six already? It seems just like yesterday that we got the call, “Are you ready? Because I’m in labor!”

Samuel is such a special little boy. Over the years, we’ve lost contact with his birth mother. Sometimes I wish I could just send her an email and some pictures that says, “Look at this amazing boy and how he’s grown. Thank you for letting him become my son.” I can’t thank his birth mother, but I do thank God for him. I am so blessed.

Happy Birthday, Samuel! We love you!

5 years

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Last week we took Samuel out for pizza to celebrate the day we finalized his adoption. Most people seem to celebrate “Gotcha Day,” but since Sam was placed with us at birth, we decided to celebrate his finalization date instead.

This is the first year we did anything, but I’m excited to keep the tradition in coming years. My parents always made me feel so special (did you know I’m adopted too?), but it’s a lot of fun to be able to see it from the parents’ eyes this time.

5 years. It’s hard to believe it’s been that long!

Beautiful poem written by a birthmother

*warning – grab a tissue – you’ll need it*

Somebody on Hannah’s Prayer shared this poem today. She said she found it while searching the web for something else.

I wanted to share it here because it is simply beautiful. I sat there with tears streaming down my face, because I could see the face of little man’s birthmom in my mind’s eye while I was reading.

Adoption is an incredible blessing. Without it, he would never have become my son. It is also an amazing sacrifice on the part of a birthmother. As I watch him grow up, my love for him grows and grows. I don’t know how many times I’ve looked at him and have seen the face of his birthmother in his silly little grin, and it takes me back to the day he was born. (oh my, here come the tears again. . .) She loved him so much, and it was so evident in her face when she looked at him and held him. Her last words to him when she said goodbye were, “I love you.” Adoption is a priceless gift.

To My Son, Their Son
By Jeska Kelly

I say “hello my little William,”
as he rests beneath my heart.
I’ll say “good bye” to little William
when it’s time for us to part.

I say “good night, sweet dreams, my angel.”
I lay my hand upon my chest,
knowing it won’t be me that tucks him in
as he lays down to rest.

I say “ouch, William, that sort of hurts”
as he moves inside of me.
But I won’t be the one to dry his tears
and mend his first scraped knee.

I say “relax, sweet boy” to William
as he grows and jumps and turns,
but I won’t be there to calm him
when he’s faced with life’s concerns.

When he’s got a dirty diaper,
when he’s crying late at night,
when he sees a shadow monster,
and he’s up ’til 3 with fright…

When he eats his first real bite of food,
when he’s learning how to crawl,
when he’s being taught to hold a bat
and how to throw a ball…

It won’t be me there with him.
And though at times it makes me sad,
I know that God has given him
his home, his mom, his dad.

We’ll always be connected.
He’s grown beneath my heart so long
that he’s also grown into it!
The bond is precious and it’s strong.

But I am not his mother.
She lives miles and miles away,
with his daddy, surrounded by family,
who have been waiting for the day
when they will hold their precious baby,
when they will have their darling son,
and to know I’ve born the answer to their prayers
brings peace when the day is done.

And so I say to sweet, sweet William,
as I prepare to see him leave my side,
“I love you so much I’ll let you go.
It wasn’t easy to decide…
But God’s got a big, big plan for you,
He’s got a home for you to make.
He’s just got a different last name,
a different path for you to take.

You are God’s child first,
And He’ll put you in your place.
From His hands, to mine, to your mom and dad’s,
through the power of His grace.

I thank Him for your precious life.
I thank Him for your dad and mom.
But most of all I thank Him for the strength
to place you where you belong.”

We made it! Little man is part of our forever family now!!!!!

We left early, since we’d never been to the courthouse before. We got there, and the room was empty. Stephen had to go next door to the police station to ask if we were in the right place………they said we were, but our lawyer wasn’t there! So Stephen called his cell, and it turned out that we were at the wrong courthouse!!!!! We drove all over Rock Hill looking for the road the policeman told us the family court was on.

We got there 15 min before we were supposed to go in…..but it was ok. The judge was a friend of our lawyer’s, and she was really sweet. She let us take a picture of us with her, and she even held Little man for a while. When our attorney handed her the adoption decree to sign, he had the wrong one! The judge said it was ok, though, and they’ll mail us a copy.

Little man was being so good…..I was totally sure he’d get hungry again just in time for court, but he didn’t. To celebrate, Stephen and I went to Olive Garden….yummmmm! And their Black Tie Chocolate Mousse is to die for! I got some pics of Little man there…..all sacked out. He was too sweet.

Things have been such a whirlwind since Little man was born! We are adjusting to life as parents, and we absolutely love it!
Little man was born April 26, at 11:36 pm, weighing 5 pounds and 12 ounces. He was six weeks early, so he was immediately taken to the NICU unit, He spent a week there (such a scary week for us new parents!), and was released on May 2.
We called our attorney the next morning to tell him that Little man had been discharged, so that the ICPC interstate paperwork could be sent out. We got a call on June 4 saying the paperwork had cleared and that he could legally go home!
Little man was just weighed on Friday (June 4), and he now weighs well over 8 pounds! He was 8 pounds 8 ounces, and they told me he’s gaining an average of an ounce and a half a day!

I don’t even know where to start! I’ve been soooo busy the past few days, with Dad, Mom and Andy visiting. Andy left yesterday, and Mom and Dad left this morning. We had a great weekend!
Shortly after Mom and Dad arrived, they herded us into our living room, because they had bought our baby gift already, and wanted us to open it. It was in a large paper bag, with some tissue paper set on top. But the boxes weren’t wrapped. I pulled off the tissue paper, and I saw this Digital Video Recorder box….I thought that they had placed our gift in the camcorder box. But when I saw the DVD burner box….it hit me. My parents bought us a Digital Video Recorder – and all the accessories needed to make DVD’s!!!!! Basically, since they live 850 miles away from us, they bought us stuff so that we can mail them DVD’s of the baby! They wanted to get it for us now, so that when the baby arrives, we’ll be used to using them. Wow….. Talk about humbling!!!!! I think we videoed about the entire weekend!!!
Then, our birthmother was supposed to meet our attorney on Friday. I was pretty curious how it went. Late that afternoon our attorney’s secretary called us. Stephen answered the phone, and then came to tell me who had called.
“That was our attorney’s secretary. He wants us to call him tomorrow.”
(I got so nervous…..I was afraid she had changed her mind, or that there was bad news…….)
“Oh, by the way, he says that he had a good visit with her.” What a relief! When we called our attorney, he told us that he had a great visit with our birthmom, and that we couldn’t have picked a better birthmom! Wow! What a blessing!
Then on Saturday, our profile book arrived in the mail. Amy Miller had all of the copies at Link, so we had asked her to mail us one so we could give it to her. My family went to the Botanical Gardens, which just so happen to be near our birthmom’s house. We called her before we left for the gardens, and asked her if we could bring our book by her house, and if she wanted to, she could meet our family.
When we got there, she did want to meet my family! How cool is that?!?! Poor thing – she had just gotten home from work and out of the shower, but she went to meet my family! It was really cool. She had just had another doctor’s visit on Thursday, so she was telling me about it. She also had another ultrasound picture for us! It’s a great profile shot! It is sooooooo cute!!! Her last baby was a month early. She is 33 weeks right now……and her doctor told her to pack her bags and be ready!!! AARRGGHH!!!!!! That is so SOON! Talk about panic! It’s not that they think she’ll go into labor early, it’s just that she did with the last one so they wanted her to be ready. But I’m definitely panicking now! I’m so ready for a baby, but there’s a lot I wanted done…..that might not get done. But it’s ok. I’ll be working extra hard now to finish things up. Her due date is May 25…..only 6 weeks away! Wow, that is so soon!
Well, this got a lot longer than I thought it would, so I’ll go for now. Just wanted to update y’all on what’s going on at our house!


Is due May 25!
A month or so ago, a man from church came up to us after service, and told us of a pregnant woman that he knew of that was looking to give her baby up for adoption. We passed along our phone number, and waited. To make a long story short, she called today. We spoke for about a half hour. She is due May 25, with a boy. We will meet her in person next Thursday (the 25th).
She had her other babies here in town, so that’s probably where she’ll have this baby too. Nice and close to home! YAY!
I contacted Amy, and she gave me the phone numbers of two attorneys: one in SC and one in NC. We’re supposed to meet with our SC attorney this Saturday, March 20. I was supposed to go to a ladies’ meeting that day, but this is a little more important………
I am so excited….I just can’t believe it. We’re going to be parents!