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After posting about dressing more feminine last week, I’ve been thinking about femininity in general. About what it means, how to apply it, how others apply it – it’s been interesting.
An internet search for Biblical femininity came up pretty sparse. It is sad that there are so few sites (or even articles) on true Biblical femininity.
A quick internet search for femininity in general was disappointing as well. There were more articles about how women can become more masculine and how men need to get in touch with their feminine side. . .also not what I was looking for (and most of what I found I also disagree with, go figure).
Webster’s Dictionary defines feminine as:
1 : female
2 : characteristic of or appropriate or unique to women “feminine beauty” “a feminine perspective” “feminine”
That wasn’t as helpful as I’d hoped. For now, I’ll be doing more searching. There might not be a lot of information out there on Biblical femininity, but I will be studying.
Sunny mentioned doing a weekly fashion challenge. I think it’s a neat idea. I’m not exactly knowledgeable in some fashion areas though – dressing modestly and for a good price is my forte, not finding things that look fantastic. It’s something I’ve been working on improving. I’d love to hear other ideas though!
7 thoughts on “Friday's musings on femininity”
I think that part of being feminine in our appearance and behavior comes from viewing our womanhood through the lens of the Bible and through the eyes of God.
If we don’t have a right view of womanhood, we won’t have a right view of what it means to be feminine.
I have gone through bouts of more and less femininity (less, not on purpose, just looking for comfort I guess), but I do prefer femininity for myself.
I do love my jeans, and I feel that I can look modest and feminine wearing them (I usually wear a feminine top that covers my pelvic area), and I tend to make my own tops so that they can be modest and feminine, and to my liking.
Looking forward to reading more. 🙂
Modesty and femininity are very interesting topics to me – and apparently to a lot of other people! I had to start moderating my comments lately because I had a “troll” who was commenting and leaving offensive website links on any post I had on modesty. Since I started moderating, the turkey hasn’t been back!
Anyway, I enjoy discussing femininity. My 17-year-old daughter and I are totally different in body type, size, and style preferences, but I think we both dress femininely, and our clothes suit each of us. She’s not a ruffles-and-lace girl, and she doesn’t like ankle-length skirts. We’ve raised her with standards of modesty, and within those standards she manages to be fashionable and modest. We’ve found ways to make some of the current styles modest, like wearing a tank under a low-cut top – but that top has to be loose, not body-skimming – things like that.
“I think this is one area that is open to personal interpretation. Everyone is different – even our body shapes are different. What looks sweet and feminine on one person could very well look frumpy on another person.”
Just wanted to add my personal perspective on this (and I agree). A friend of mine just gave me a shirt she found while out shopping. It’s so pretty and feminine but my first thought was “there is no way I can wear this” I showed it to my husband and he said “yup, looks really country – pretty, but country” It’s just not *me*.
I think the key is to find our own personal style that looks good on us within the guidelines of modesty. That’s a tricky one. I remember going through a phase where I made all my own clothes. Now, there is *nothing* wrong with that but I didn’t like what I was wearing but somehow equated making my own clothes with a higher level of godliness. Of course, we all know that doesn’t make us any better or worse than anyone else. But I was a new christian and didn’t really know what I was doing.
most days you’ll find me in a straight denim skirt (no trouble chasing the kids!) and a colorful tee.
This certainly is an interesting topic!
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said “dressing modestly and for a good price is my forte….”. So many people tend to worry about fashion too much. We are a skirt/dress only family and have been for a few years now. I sometimes make my own skirts because I cannot find any modest enough or affordable for myself in the stores.It doesn’t bother me a bit to wear them. On the other hand, I couldn’t get my 15 yo to wear a homemade skirt if it had a $100 in the pocket!
I struggle with my teen daughters (15 & 12) about modesty vs. fashion all the time. Modest is NOT in style. It helps that we homeschool, but the skirts are getting shorter and shorter even in our churches (or long but skin tight!). In some churches that believe women should wear skirts, it seems nowadays any skirt will do, just as long as it is a skirt.
The bottom line is:People are VAIN! I heard one woman say that she was going to start wearing uniform pants to work because she couldn’t run after children in her long straight skirt. It was too tight. I asked her about an A-line skirt instead… She replied “I don’t like the way they look on me”. ????? Vanity over Modesty? I guess I had better get off of my soap box! Looking forward to reading more.
I think this is one area that is open to personal interpetation. Everyone is different – even our body shapes are different. What looks sweet and feminine on one person could very well look frumpy on another person.
Tammy, thank you for the reminder. I think you’re right. It amazes me how something can look great on one person and awful on the next.
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